Hi! I was curious as to do the bride and groom pay for their bridesmaids and groomsmen outfits? Could I have the girls buy their cowboy boots and I buy their dresses. And for the guys we tell them what they need to order and provide one thing we pay for. Just not sure how any of this works. Lol
If it's in your budget to pay for the wedding party attire, then I think it would be a kind gesture to do so! Otherwise, I think it's totally fine to ask them to cover their own attire. In every wedding that I've been a bridesmaid in, I paid for my own dress and shoes that the bride picked out. If you are going to ask them to pay for something to wear for your wedding, make sure you check in with them on what each of their budgets are, and choose attire that's within the lowest budget. In response to your idea, I think it's totally reasonable for you to pay for the bridesmaids dresses, and ask them to pay for their boots!
It’s totally fine to ask them to pay. However, if you do that I think it’s the most polite thing to do to let your bridesmaids pick their own dresses so they can buy something they can afford. And then to make sure you’re picking reasonably priced suits as well
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All of the dresses for the color at the website were using or about $80. So I think that is affordable. The guys are wearing cowboy boots, dark jeans and suit coats. Should we pay for their jackets and jeans or I don’t know how to do the guys…
It depends where you live. In the US the wedding party traditionally pays for their own attire, but that was only ever supposed to include the dress or outfit, not footwear, jewelry, accessories etc. The reasoning is that while you have some say, you would properly have consulted in terms of budget and style for a dress they could keep and potentially wear again. You can suggest a color or color range for footwear at most but IMO it is not appropriate for you to dictate cowboy boots and certainly not to expect your bridesmaids to pay for them.
In other parts of the world, for example the UK the couple typically pays for attire. That's always made more sense to me, especially since so many brides think it's OK to impose their wishes 100%.
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The style of their dress is not an issue for me. Because I want them all to have a style dress that they like. The color is set as well as the website that they have to purchase it from. The boots is a bigger issue for me because I want them to all be the same color brown. Especially because the color of the leather between brands and models are so different. As is the color of jeans from brand to brand. I do not want in pictures for them to look all different colors only because already their dresses are all different. I do not want the mismatch look in pictures. Does that make sense?? I think what I’ll do is when I have a one on one meeting with each one of them, I will give them the option of us, paying for the dress/jacket/jeans or us paying for the boots.